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Wednesday, March 08, 2006

Fathers are much more involved than they've ever been, and that's fantastic. Far fewer wage earners arrive home, demand a cocktail, wolf down dinner unappreciatively, and pass out on the couch. (That wage earner isn't even always male.) But as with every swing of the pendulum, trends can be carried too far. Since when does Daddy have to stagger home after a full day of work and take full responsibility for all the kid wrangling?

Don't get me wrong. Lots of dads (including me) look forward to tending to their children after a day's worth of soul-numbing office politics, but when did it become expected? The world is full of mommybloggers who proudly write how they foist their children on Dear Husband the moment he gets home, and any time I read that I cringe. I understand that Mommy had a stressful day, but dammit, Daddy just spent the day listening to blathering clients, or catering to self-important superiors, or putting out a bunch of fires he didn't start. He deserves a little downtime, too.

I think my wife and I have hit upon the perfect balance. We used to do what most couples do, I suppose: we alternated all the book-readin', bath-givin', meal-makin', dish-washin', etc., based on who's free to do what. Now, our live-in servants take care of everything while my wife and I spend our evenings living the high life among the glitterati and cognoscenti. Truly, if your plural doesn't end in i, we want no part of you.

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"Daddy just spent the day listening to blathering clients, or catering to self-important superiors, or putting out a bunch of fires he didn't start. He deserves a little downtime, too."

At least YOU get the leave your blathering clients, self-important superiors (ask ANY 3 y/o and they will tell you how important they really are!), and fires at the office. Mommies are on-call 24/7. No where to run, no where to hide.

We all deserve some downtime, really.

Posted by: Wicked Stepmom | Mar 8, 2006 1:56:18 PM

This same "happy-medium" my husband & I have hit. Part of the reason is that our Toddler was starting to pull the "I want Mommy" crap for everything--and that reality doesn't fly in our world. I work PT & hubby works FT, but my PT deal is so I agree to take care of "house stuff": paying bills, dealing w/contractors/gardener, daycare pick up/drop off, etc...We both "work" during the day, so taking turns is fair to us AND makes sure that our Toddler gets the benefit of both parents in similar situations. If one of us has an especially hard day the other will pick up some slack for them, nothing's in stone, but we try to stick to it because it's good for all of us.

Posted by: mama speak | Mar 8, 2006 5:13:13 PM

Downtime? Isn't that what closets are for? The only issue is who gets to go in.

Posted by: Tina | Mar 8, 2006 7:33:17 PM

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